Martine Algier, CT, NLP

Certified Trainer & Mediator

The International Center for Nonviolent Communication

Nonviolent Communication

Needs & Feelings

This is sometimes called the “feelings and needs inventory” or the feelings and “universal needs” list. It’s a nonviolent communication (NVC) tool that can help you name what you and others are feeling and deepen your communication.

NVC Feelings List

The Nonviolent communication feelings list is really an emotions list. This list of emotions can be used to help yourself and others better understand what you’re feeling. These words go with the phrase “When …. happened/s, I felt/feel…

When needs are met

adventurous – engaged – loving
affectionate – excited – moved
alive – fascinated – peaceful
calm – friendly – playful
confident – glad – relaxed
content – happy – satisfied
curious – hopeful – tender
delighted – interested – thrilled
energetic – joyful – warm

When needs are not met

agitated – embarrassed – nervous
alarmed – exasperated – overwhelmed
ambivalent – flustered – protective
angry – grief – sad
annoyed – heartbroken – scared
anxious – helpless – stressed
confused – hopeless – suspicious
despairing – impatient – tense
devastated – irritated – terrified
disconnected – lonely – torn
discouraged – longing – troubled

NVC Needs List

This is a list of Universal Human needs. This list is not complete, but it includes all nine categories and a reasonable selection of universal needs.

Autonomy
Choice Space
Spontaneity

Peace
Beauty
Ease
Harmony
Order
Wholeness

Connection
Acceptance
Affection
Clarity
Communication
Confirmation
Compassion
Intimacy
Understanding
Authenticity
Love

Honesty
Authenticity
Integrity

Basic Survival
Shelter
Food & Water
Rest
Safety
Security
Touch

Competence
Effectiveness
Efficiency
Growth
Learning
Power

Meaning
Contribution
Creativity
Hope
Inspiration
Purpose

Celebration
Joy
Mourning
Play

Interconnection
Belonging
Consideration
Community
Cooperation
Dignity
Mutuality
Support
Trust