Martine Algier, CT, NLP
Certified Trainer & Mediator
The International Center for Nonviolent Communication
Nonviolent Communication
Needs & Feelings
This is sometimes called the “feelings and needs inventory” or the feelings and “universal needs” list. It’s a nonviolent communication (NVC) tool that can help you name what you and others are feeling and deepen your communication.
NVC Feelings List
The Nonviolent communication feelings list is really an emotions list. This list of emotions can be used to help yourself and others better understand what you’re feeling. These words go with the phrase “When …. happened/s, I felt/feel…“
When needs are met
adventurous – engaged – loving
affectionate – excited – moved
alive – fascinated – peaceful
calm – friendly – playful
confident – glad – relaxed
content – happy – satisfied
curious – hopeful – tender
delighted – interested – thrilled
energetic – joyful – warm
When needs are not met
agitated – embarrassed – nervous
alarmed – exasperated – overwhelmed
ambivalent – flustered – protective
angry – grief – sad
annoyed – heartbroken – scared
anxious – helpless – stressed
confused – hopeless – suspicious
despairing – impatient – tense
devastated – irritated – terrified
disconnected – lonely – torn
discouraged – longing – troubled
NVC Needs List
This is a list of Universal Human needs. This list is not complete, but it includes all nine categories and a reasonable selection of universal needs.
Autonomy
Choice Space
Spontaneity
Peace
Beauty
Ease
Harmony
Order
Wholeness
Connection
Acceptance
Affection
Clarity
Communication
Confirmation
Compassion
Intimacy
Understanding
Authenticity
Love
Honesty
Authenticity
Integrity
Basic Survival
Shelter
Food & Water
Rest
Safety
Security
Touch
Competence
Effectiveness
Efficiency
Growth
Learning
Power
Meaning
Contribution
Creativity
Hope
Inspiration
Purpose
Celebration
Joy
Mourning
Play
Interconnection
Belonging
Consideration
Community
Cooperation
Dignity
Mutuality
Support
Trust